Living with mom: Pros and cons of mother-in-law suites

Posted by Annalisa Burgos | May 8, 2009

My mother-in-law and I get along well, but I’m not sure how I’d feel about her living with me and my husband. Sure we’d get a babysitter and homemade enchiladas whenever we want. But there’s just something disconcerting about having your husband’s mother so close — the potential for power struggles and disagreements on how the household is run and how the children are raised. Not to mention the possibility that your husband will have to choose sides during an argument.

That said, many families across the country live happily with their mother-in-laws, and in a recession, sharing one roof to save money may not be such a bad idea. Which is why I expect a growing demand for “mother-in-law suites” or accessory dwelling units, as some cities call them.

A brief background — zoning and land use laws typically ban multiple dwelling units on one property, but some cities allow a relative or guest to live in secondary units, hence the term “mother-in-law suite,” or as I’ve heard here in the Northeast “a mother/daughter home.” You essentially have a separate living area, with its own kitchen and bathroom, connected to a single family home. They come in various forms, often a finished attic or basement or a detached building elsewhere on the property.

As more extended families and relatives move in together, properties with mother-in-law suites will become more appealing. Real estate agents already call out the feature in their listings. Before you buy one, make sure you check your local laws — you may or may not be able to rent out the space.

Check out these pictures of an awesome Craftsman-style home with mother-in-law suite (more like house!) for sale in Redmond, Oregon. It’s like getting two homes for the price of one! It’s listed for 390K.

If this one isn’t for you, don’t worry. We’ve got tons more on www.FrontDoor.com. And if you do decide to have your mother-in-law live with you, good luck with that.

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